Friday, November 4, 2011

ENCOURAGE EACH OTHER

It's funny, you can tell by the tone of a friends voice what's going on in their life. They don't have to tell you.
I didn't know why he was upset, or sad, but I knew something was up.
"I've been rejected." He said. "I feel like a loser."
"First of all my friend, they did not reject you. They don't have a "fit" for your work right this minute."
Every time one of our author friends gets that exciting news "I'm going to be published", we all rejoice with them.
When that author sends out the publicity, : "I'm so happy to tell you, (whatever publisher) has picked up my book. It will be released next summer..... that's what they send out. What they don't send out is: I queried seven hundred and fifty publishers before that one asked to see my manuscript.....and that one finally said, yeah, we'll publish you!   
My friend was laughing before we hung up. 
That's what we do, as friends. We encourage each other.
I reminded him to stop calling, or thinking of himself as a "loser".  They didn't reject him personally. Besides how could anyone reject that sweet adorable person that he is.
I know the next call he gets will be an acceptance. He's a terrific writer.

7 comments:

Glenda Parker Fiction Writer said...

Thank you for this post. I found it very encouraging. I have known that rejection and have not had the thrill of being published so it is encouraging to remember that everyone else get rejected too. Thank you again.
Glenda Parker
http:glendaparkerfictionwriter.blogspot.com

Kathryn Neff Perry, PhD, MA, LMHC said...

Glenda, You know what my friend, there are more of us "unpublished" than published. You are a fabulous writer---remember that. I will be/am your biggest cheerleader!
Btw, I'm going to follow you.
Hugs and blessings
Katt

Terri Tiffany said...

You are such an encourager. I had to learn to take those rejections as badges that I am trying and that is more than others are doing. We keep going:)
It was wonderful to hear from you!

Kathryn Neff Perry, PhD, MA, LMHC said...

I like that Terri..."badges"...
Keep in touch!

Joylene Nowell Butler said...

I left a comment yesterday but it didn't take. I can't remember what I said. I think it was something brilliant and profound...

or maybe not.

Love you, Miss Katt.

Kathryn Neff Perry, PhD, MA, LMHC said...

Joy,
As always you make me laugh! I KNOW your comment was brilliant AND profound! Aren't they always?????
Miss you too!

Milady said...

Melanie here! I enjoyed this piece, please email me--I have a question about your blog. MelanieLBowen[at]gmail[dot]com